Her sex romps inspired the legendary Sex and the City franchise, and the author has now revealed she returned to New York following a period of five years spent in Connecticut where she took a break from romance following her divorce.
New York City resident and acclaimed author and journalist Candace Bushnell, 60, reflected on her career as a sex columnist in the 1980’s and the aftermaths of being divorced and childless in her fifties and added she doesn’t eat before 4pm.
Speaking to the Sunday Times Magazine, Candace explained that she didn’t feel like dating after her 2012 divorce from husband of ten years – ballet dancer Charles Askegard.
Instead, she left New York, and moved to Connecticut, where she indulged in horseback riding, and swore off men and sex, ‘It’s not that long when you get to my age. I know women who have gone longer,’ she said.
Candace Bushnell, 60, wrote a column in the New York Observer that turned into the HBO hit series Sex and the City
Sex and the City debuted in 1996 and swept the nation with its hilarious and honest approach to female pleasure. From left to right: , Kristin Davis (Charlotte York), Sarah Jessica Parker (Carrie Bradshaw), Kim Cattrall (Samantha Jones) and Cynthia Nixon (Miranda Hobbs) star in the comedy series
‘Did I just miss some pure good sex? Yes, of course. Who doesn’t want that? But it’s all the stuff that’s around the sex you don’t miss, like finding the person to have the sex with,’ she said.
Now back in the dating game, and in love with new real estate agent boyfriend Jim Coleman, Candace is releasing a new book, titled Is there still Sex in the City? in early August.
The book is fiction inspired from her life and the aftermaths of her own divorce. She dives into what she calls ‘middle-aged sadness,’ and the difficulties of bouncing back in your fifties.
Candace argued that it is harder to recover from bad news in your fifties than in your twenties or thirties. And she added that in the eyes of many people, women, particularly those over 50 – where often blamed for the set-backs they had to overcome.
Candace Bushnell with Sarah-Jessica Parker and Chris Noth (Mr Big) during a party in the 1990’s
However, she added that she had found turning 60 a relief, which helped get rid of her sense of shame.
She admitted to having Botox regularly, having had fillers done, and once considered going through a Mona Lisa procedure – vaginal rejuvenation laser surgery, priced at £3,000.
In the book, she mentions not eating before 4pm, not out of discipline, but because she’s simply not hungry. She likes to have dinner early and will snack while cooking.
The socialite, who first came to New York in the 1980’s, when Studio 50 was all the rage, thinks modern dating has made women angry and frustrated.
Bushnell gave up men for five years following her divorce from her husband of ten years Charles Askegard
On top of the six seasons of the HBO series, Sex and the City also spawned two movies. Pictured: Carrie and her friends head to her wedding ceremony in Sex and the City 1
‘Women have the same complaints about men as they did before, except their complaints are much harsher now. They seem angrier. The rejection and the uncertainty of online communication, it hurts people’s souls,’ she added.
She also said she felt people were more interesting and more sexual in the 1980’s and added that men were more focused on female pleasure back then.
The writer admitted that she finds New York boring and consensual, and a ‘thousand time less fun’ than what it used to be.
Sarah Jessica Parker (pictured) as sex-columnist Carrie, the heroin of the Sex and the City series
Sex and the City featured four women talking freely about their sex lives, their let-downs and fantasies
However, she added that several editors had offered to help with her career in exchange of sexual favours, something she said was common at the time.
While she also revealed that the characters in her upcoming book had been sexually harassed at some point in their lives but would just have dealt with it and told the men to ‘go f*** themselves.’
Talking about age and dating she also said she felt gender dynamics and sexual attraction evolved as you grew older, with competition taking a step back in favor of being ‘nice.’